There are a lot of misconceptions about us introverts. Some of you think we are shy, don’t like to talk, don’t like to go out in public, always want to be alone… or maybe you may think we are just down right rude. Huh, well some of that may be true (LOL) BUT for the most part… those are myths. Let me help you clear up some of these misconceptions by taking time to explain what an Introvert truly is. At the end, enjoy another vlog by MsQueenRo!
Myth #1: We are NOT shy!
Please don’t get it twisted… because we won’t step to you or make the first move, that makes you think we are shy. That is far from the truth. We are very selective on who we talk to. Most of the time we won’t make the first move b/c we want to observe first. Many times, if your energy is off… we will just turn around and walk the other way. It takes a lot of energy for us to have a full-fledged conversation upon first meeting someone. Therefore, if you come off too overbearing… you can forget it. It’s not that we are shy, it’s that we would rather walk up to you when you are a little more calm or maybe more inviting. Me personally… I LOVE THE SPOTLIGHT– hehehehehe– I may not make the first move to get me there.
Myth #2: We DON’T always want to be alone!
Do we most of the time… hmmm yes not going to lie. We do LOVE our alone time! You see, introverts recharge by being alone. Again, it takes a lot of energy to mingle in a large group or to participate in a public speaking setting. When it’s all over with, we need to find a space for peace and quiet or else we become irritable, annoyed and possibly “snappy-mean”. However, this doesn’t mean we ALWAYS want to be alone. Most of us are not reclusive 100% of time. We enjoy company or love to hang out. We just like to do it when we are ready, yep- on our terms- LOL. Nah, many times we will go out if you ask us. (Again, you made the first move) We will go but judge us if we find a spot not occupied by too many people to hang out alone until someone comes to talk to us.
Myth #3: We DON’T like to talk!
SO NOT TRUE! Most of you don’t allow us to talk! We would love to express our opinion but somehow, you end up taking over the conversation.
Me: So let me tell you what my employee did today, do you know he didn’t come to work again today?! This is now the 5th day in a row he has been out. That’s okay, he knows where he stands so when he comes back to office… (I get cut off)…
Coworker: Yep, I have the same situation happening with this employee right now! She has been out of the office for 2 days now without calling. We are about to send a Job Abandonment letter to this woman. What are you about to do with yours?
Me: Well yes, that is my next step but first I have to call him to make sure nothing has truly happened and then I will be contacting HR to… (cut off again)…
Coworker: Do you know when I called HR, the rep asked me all kinds of questions and I’m like… “yes Miss, I followed protocol before I called you, can you just mail out the letter please?!”
Me: So then what? [Notice at this point, I’ve shut down and decided to let my coworker finish their story b/c they obviously weren’t interested in mine]
Most introverts are thinkers. If we are not prepared for a conversation, it may take us a second to process what we are trying to say. Remain patient and QUIET with us. It will come together in a minute or two b/c our conversation is just as entertaining as yours- if not more. True listening is allowing us to get out our full thought before you intervene with yours.
Myth #4: We are RUDE!
No we are NOT… well, we don’t mean to be- LOL. I can’t help the faces I make b/c as I stated we are thinkers. Moreover, many times what we are thinking comes out via our eyes or facial expressions. I’ve been told many years… “Ro, if your eyes could talk” or “Ro, you come off as unapproachable but when I get to know you… you are like the sweetest person!” Yes, I am. Stop prejudging me. A lot of times my look isn’t even meant for you. I’m probably focused on my work or maybe I was thinking about something that happened earlier. However, there has been some times those looks are meant for you… just saying. Instead of prejudging me, ask me what I am thinking. We so appreciate someone actually taking time to find out our opinion!
Fact #1: Where I DON’T want to have a conversation with you! (click below)
This one is in the form of a video, take a listen here!
Fact #2: An Introvert Mother vs an Extrovert Child
OMG, I have to continually pray for this situation. I love Raegan with all my heart but let me tell you, this is where I see us clashing as we grow old together. (Just keeping it 100) What makes it worse, it’s just her and I. It would be better if there was a 3rd person in the house so some heat can be taken off of me but NOPE, just me and her. Yep, just us two… just me annnndddd Raegan. “Father, God, … #jesusbuildmeafence so it can separate us both- LOL! Oh, don’t get your underwear in a bunch (LOL)… I love spending time with my daughter. It’s just I would love it even more when she learns the meaning of Mommy-time or my God… space! She continually wants to talk or play with me:
Raegan: Mommy, come play with me.
Me: Not right now Rae, can Mommy relax for a few minutes?
Raegan: Sure Mommy (5 minutes later) Mommy, what color is this?
Me: Raegan, you know what color it is.
Raegan: *giggles* I know, it’s red.
Me: *fake smile*
Raegan: Mommy, what is this word?
Me: *Now annoyed* The word is “crown”. Yep, you see that picture beside it… yes, Raegan that’s a crown. It was a crown when we talked about it yesterday, and it’s the same crown today. SMH… (praying under my breath) “Father, in the name of Jesus… please let child give me 10 minutes to myself.
Raegan: Mommy, who are you talking to?
Me: I changed my name to Fred.
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